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How to put your children first in your divorce

On Behalf of | Feb 5, 2022 | Divorce |

Divorce is never easy in Minnesota, but it can be especially difficult when children are involved. As a parent, you may often wonder how to make the transition as smooth as possible for your children. The best way to do this is by striving for a child-centered divorce.

What is a child-centered divorce?

A child-centered divorce is one in which you put the children’s needs first. This means that the parents work together to make decisions that are in the best interests of their children. Remember that children who witness their parents working together through the divorce process are more likely to have successful relationships in their own lives, and they’re also less likely to develop behavioral or emotional problems.

How can you make your divorce child-centered?

There are a few things you can do to make your divorce more child-centered. First, try to keep the lines of communication open with your ex-spouse. This will be important not only during the divorce process but also after it’s finalized.

You should also ensure that you’re honest with your children about what’s going on. Children often worry about how their parents will support them, so be sure to reassure your children that you’ll both be there for them even though you won’t live together as a family anymore.

If there’s an option of resolving your issues out of court, it’s best to pursue this option. It may allow you greater control over the outcome of your divorce and may also be less stressful for your children. If you choose to take this path, keep in mind that mediation is often a good choice because it allows both parents to talk about their concerns with a neutral third party.

Lastly, don’t force your children to take sides. This will only make things more complicated for them and is likely to cause resentment down the road. Instead, encourage them to have healthy relationships with both of you.

In a divorce that involves children, the most important thing parents should do is put their children first. In your case, for instance, this doesn’t mean that you have to agree with everything your ex-spouse says or does, but it does mean that you need to cooperate as much as possible for the sake of your children.