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Learning effective listening skills

On Behalf of | Sep 15, 2016 | Firm News |

Many families in Minnesota going through divorce process notice that the lines of communication between them and their children are faint or no longer exist. Parents who seek to minimize the effects of their divorce situation on their kids should start by learning effective listening skills. According to, parents should stop talking so they can hear what is actually being said. This can enable them to become better and more effective communicators with their children and themselves.

Former spouses who want to improve their listening skills for their children should learn to exercise empathy. It can be hard for parents to understand their kids feelings if they cannot understand where they are coming from, states Forbes. For example, if the children are sad about something, parents should try to feel sad about the situation to so they can see things from their kids’ perspective.

Spouses should avoid talking unnecessarily. They should ask questions only when the kids are not speaking. Parents should also avoid reacting too quickly and jumping to conclusions when they are listening to their children. Many kids are not able to express themselves as eloquently as adults can. Therefore, parents who keep an open mind are able to listen more efficiently to their children.

Also, former spouses should avoid distractions when they are communicating with their kids. They should keep a calm and relaxed demeanor so their children feel comfortable being around and communicating with them. They should also establish eye contact with their kids periodically to show them that they are giving them their full attention and actively listening.

Communication is necessary to enhance one’s quality of life because it minimizes misunderstandings and leads to better emotional support. Some conflicts may be unavoidable. However, parents who know how to listen effectively to what their children are saying can resolve their conflicts more amicably in a shorter amount of time. They can also prevent hurt feelings and disruptions to the family dynamic.